Let Your Past Make You Better, Not Bitter

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“I’m thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.”

Hi my GR fam! I’m sure you’ve noticed that the past few months I’ve barely written any posts and my Insta game was not on point. The truth is that I went through a pretty traumatic chapter in my life. It was brief, but the wounds run deep. I have to keep some things personal so this post isn’t so much about what I went through, but more so on how I’m getting back on my feet!

After any rough patch, whether that be a breakup, death, loss of a job, medical issue, etc. it’s hard to get back to day to day life once the dust has settled. We’ve become so used to being stressed and worried that it’s natural to feel depressed and want to just sulk. Of course it’s 100% necessary to take the time you need to talk about whatever you went through and grieve the situation, but once you’re ready I want to help you make a comeback to your life. I’m going to share with you how I physically, mentally and spiritually am on a journey to the best version of myself.

Physically

There is no better way to kickstart re-inventing yourself than focusing on your health. I’ve always been a gym rat, but I’ve been in an exercise rut for years. It feels like what I went through set something off inside me that has made me push myself harder than ever in the gym. I’m determined to get results and won’t stop until I get them. My advice is to get yourself a killer playlist and dig deep channeling any fears or anger into your workout. You’re going to have the hottest revenge body in no time.

Focusing on my nutrition has also been a big part of my journey to healing. I’m still treating myself but I’m making smarter choices, measuring portions, and not eating late at night. And believe it or not it’s pretty easy! Essentially I guess you could say I’m doing an un-official If It Fits Your Macros (IIFYM) “diet”. I don’t like saying diet because honestly I feel like I’m just making better lifestyle choices that are sustainable long term. But I’m pretty much just trying to stay within a certain caloric range while eating mostly clean foods with small amounts of indulgences. So far so good!

Mentally

If you’re fresh out of your stressful situation please lean on your friends and family if you feel that you need support. I’ve always been one to not want to bother people, so even if someone says “Let me know if you need anything!” I usually won’t take people up on it. But this time I couldn’t do this alone. I accepted the offers to call, hang out, grab lunch, just talk. I needed it. I can’t thank those of you enough who sat with me on the phone or over ice cream and watery eyes at my lowest points. Knowing that I has a little army of support is what kept me going when I felt like my world was crumbling down.

Once you’ve allowed yourself to grieve your situation it’s important to start doing the things you love again. Fill every gap of spare time with things you enjoy. Get back to your hobbies, go on weekend adventures, call a friend you haven’t talked to in a while, grab a coffee at a cute new coffee spot. Basically just fall back in love with life. At first it may feel forced if you’re still having a hard time coping. But with both time and positive experiences you will start feeling like your old self again. Depending on what you are going through, relapses and bad days may occur which is normal. Don’t let that make you feel defeated. Better days are coming.

It’s important to note you will never be the same- but not in a bad way. Our experiences shape us. What you went through is going to become a part of you. But it’s up to you to make sure that this experience makes you a stronger person and doesn’t tear you down. You consciously are able to make this choice. I read a quote yesterday that spoke to me: “Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand back up taller than you ever were.” It’s all going to be worth it one day my friends!

Spiritually

This section may not be for everyone as beliefs vary, but I figured I’d share how my faith is helping me. I’m no bible beater. I am Catholic but up until recently I’d go to church one to two times a month and pray maybe once a week. I actually said out loud not that long ago “I feel like one day a major life event may strengthen my faith.” Well, I think this was it you guys! See, I found myself so at rock bottom that I literally fell to my knees sobbing and prayed. I did not know how to get through my challenges without God in those moments. He granted me the strength to pull myself together over the next days and weeks even though inside I was suffering. I know he’s walked with me through his journey and will continue to walk with me as I explore new paths. One thing to remember is that God does not inflict suffering on people to hurt them, but rather because he knows you are strong enough to handle it and will make something positive come from it. He actually does it because he loves you. Everyones opinions on spiritually are different but I wanted to include it because without my faith I don’t feel I would have coped nearly as well.

 

I am a firm (and possibly cheesy) believer that everything happens for a reason. I’m still searching for my reason but the one thing I know is that I choose to grow from it. It’s not going to be an overnight thing. But one day I’m going to look back on this time in my life and be thankful for the suffering.

 

xoxo

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